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Hi Folks,
Not so Long ago I
wrote a Blog called “cry within the cone of silence”. I am very impetuously
volatile when I see a case of child abuse in the news or reality. I can’t stand
the idea of abusing someone of their innocence. I strongly condemn this heinous
act and I would want more awareness in people about this very fragile issue. I
wanted to start this long time ago, but just dint have the time, but I have
realized, that life will never grant you any time with pity, you have to make
time for yourself. So below mentioned link will take you to the page which I
have made for the sole purpose of creating awareness about child abuse.
Click here to go
the page:
Now
coming down to my recent post -
Diagnosis of Relation-Flu
Human relationships are so complicated, The funny fact of
relationship statistics tells us that when you are in a relation what you will
assume about your partner will not be true, and what you’ll never assume will
always be true more than sixty percent of the time. We have entered the era of
I-phone 5s and Samsung S4’s and we have put behind the standard passwords, to
swipe and “state of the art” facial recognition software’s to give access to
your personal folders even to detect if you want to use the phone, one look at
the phone and it turns on. Like how we are evolving every micro second in
technology, we are also evolving from regular norms of ending a relationship,
as our life becomes more complicated, so do our reasons for ending a
relationship. Destroying our relationships on the grounds of cheating or
betrayal of trust is very normal nowadays, and believe me that’s not the major
reasons for a broken relationship. Most of the cheating husbands, boyfriends or
girlfriends are forgiven at least once in a relationship; the main reason is “it’s
just not working out anymore”. What does that even mean, does it imply that
your partner lacks understanding, is he or she inefficient of sympathy,
guerrilla warfare of principles and ideals or just simply you can’t see your
future with your partner anymore. Common phrases used whilst such kind of break
up, “it just dint feel right”, so let me get this straight, ‘do we just wait to
feel right’! Or is it not our responsibility when we enter into a relationship
to make it right.
Imagine a person born in
different origin, values, principles and social ethics, living with you in the
same room. Would you be disappointed if he doesn’t live up to your expectation
in a particular random situation, No! Because you have already conceived facts
that he or she is from different country and his or her values maybe opposite
than mine. So you become cognizant of the situation and your mind will not
exhaust your energy on emotional outrage of a predicament but will do the
opposite and will put the same energy in adjusting to him or her, slowly that
relation becomes workable. On the contrary, when it comes to your relationship
you will do the exact opposite, you will expect the opposite person to be your
personal encyclopaedia and take your partner for granted and say the most
typical sentence used in relationship fights “out of all the people I at least
expected you to understand”, why does your partner possess the ability of
“human telepathy”!. The answer is ‘No’! For now, yes maybe in next two hundred
years, but for now as I am a realist, let’s stick to reality and start asking
and get to know your partner better, keep fewer deposits of expectation and
more transactions of adjustments and understanding.
With no shame I agree that “I am inconsistent”! Which is good in a way
because it makes me determined to achieve consistency in my life, I know a man
requires woman, like oxygen to earth. One special relationship that holds you
like gravity, if we accused woman for biggest wars fought, we forget the women
behind the men who lead their life in the most brilliant ways possible, like
the man who failed almost in every sphere of life, to become the president of
independent U.S, Abrahim Lincoln. Mrs Lincoln was not only his ardent
supporter, but a friend for comfort, and morality engine of Abrahim Lincoln. If
America is the United States of America now is because of this man
who went against all odds to pass the 13th amendment, which
lead to a slavery free America.
So give your relationship a break, so that they can breathe
easily, but don’t break it completely. Care about them but don’t wrap your care
in box and push it down their throats. If your partner wronged
you without affecting your self-respect, forgive him or her, still if that
person does not realize your worth after the efforts and you feel that after
this point onwards you will either lose a relationship or your self-esteem,
choose your self-esteem and forget about that person, venture into a better
relationship as Robin Sharma stated - “Every time you think about the person
who wronged you is like carrying that person on your back its only going to
drain you more”. Remember understanding your partner will not only help you
maintain a good healthy relation but it also prevents you from staying into the
bad ones. So let me give you a true quote by Denis Waitley - Courage means
to keep working a relationship, to continue seeking solutions to difficult problems,
and to stay focused during stressful periods.
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